A young girl just out of college talking to her group of friends says she would never opt for arrange marriage. She explains how can I get married to a guy whom I have just known that also on the phone. Just because my parents are friendly with her parents it is not necessary that I would like him. These are the comments which you might hear among the educated middle and upper middle class youngsters.
Most of the older lots had a arranged marriage, (but not necessarily all of them) was a pair made by the gods that was what was perceived by the society. This view can also be contradicted by the elder generation of bollywood stars who are still going strong with their love marriages and as a result of young breed of stars from them propping up every year. here I would also like to state I am also a result of a love marriage.
A young man of 32 years who is an Aircraft Engineer by profession could not find a suitable wife on his own. His father would always complain to people that his son is not capable in finding a wife for himself. He was a non achiever. An achiever finds his/ her a partner and gets settled in today’s life.
Marriages are meant to be compatible, loving and trust worthy. He or she may be drifted apart for some point of time but will definitely return back to his/her spouse. The ugly part of dowry does nor exist in love marriages. Love marriages are normally nuclear families where as arranged marriages are of an extended family.
By Govind Ghimire
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Tara Nath Ghimire
The main point is that the bride should be economically independent, not at the mercy of the husband and in-laws.